Its really easy to say that one should not have any expectations... from anything or anyone for that matter... Thinking about it logically it does help one accept and deal with everything that happens in life.
But the reality is that this is close to impossible.
I am going to include something a friend wrote. This new friend and I share a lot of the same thinking. We have a lot in common from what I read. How we look at life and how we choose to live it as well.
Like she rightly said, I'm sure we always stop to think about why people enter our lives...
It doesn't matter how long we know them, how our relation was with them or anything. We must all realise that everyone that you meet in your life .... There is a reason behind you meeting them.
Either they are affecting you and your life in a certain way... or you are affecting theirs...
*Some bring out the best in you.. and some bring out the worst!
*Some make you uncomfortable... and some too comfortable for words...
Like I said... we don't know why at the time it happens... but if we look back at life...The reason may be revealed later
But all encounters have a reason...
All these people that come into your life come in for a reason...
as my friend said..
Its the One Eternal reason...
The reason is love....
Now that we know the reason... We also have to understand that love means caring.
For one, it is but natural to have expectations...
Its up to us how much we let our expectations of people and situations play a part in our very own lives!
People who we think we know turn around and do things to us we never though we could go through.... And people we never thought would do a thing for us or people we might not even know that well, come and stand by us at times we thought we were all alone...
Its a funny thing expectation....! You can't live with it... cause it causes a lot of grief at times... And you just can't live without it.
There are a few gifted ones who don't expect in life (as they say).
Bravo to them. I can't say I don't expect... Of course I Expect things from life and situations and people... But yes I can say with full confidence that I don't let expectations rule my life. I have been through enough experiences in life to think that and say it.
So... as far as this blog goes.. All I can say is there is nothing wrong with expectations as long as you don't let it affect you for too long after things that don't go the way you expected... or people who weren't the way you expected.
the longer you stay in that phase.. the more harmful it can be ... in more ways than one... so again... like I said before... Try to live in the present... (which again.. the hardest thing to do.. close to impossible if you ask me!)
And take life as it comes...
Its a great show... sit back, interact and enjoy every minute of it.
The show is called LIFE!
2 comments:
As it happened, a few days back I was getting tortured by my own expectations and was having this discussion with someone very important in my life. "Managing expectations, your own is the key to not being disappointed and unhappy" - This was the dictum.
which to some extent is true...but..
I kept wondering- manage to what extent? If one does not have expectations one can continue living in a state of bliss without doing anything. Then there would be no meaning of a relationship, accountability, responsibility per say...right? I believe that all of these expectation as atleast one reason of their being..
When I read your blog, it actually put down things very clearly- "Have expectations but don't be ruled by them". Thanks Rhea
anytime! ;)
*muah*
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